I loved reading part one, but I also loved listening to your part two now 🙏🏼 videos on Substack are helpful to mix things up a bit, or grab a cup of tea or a cigar while listening 😄
Two critical lessons I learned a few decades ago are "taking a step of vulnerability", that is risking opening up, and "face your fears", that by moving through one's Wall of fear, courage is built making facing fear easier and easier.
Both appear risky but remember that with little risk there is little reward.
Thanks Blake. I am a new subscriber and am here for the duration.
Wow! Thanks Blake. I have struggled with loneliness for a great portion of my life. Most of it started when I was bullied as a child and I’ve had such a hard time connecting with people, especially other guys. This really helps a lot. After being a victim of bullying, it made it extremely difficult not to assume people would reject me so I learned to only share portions of myself thinking it would be a solution but it just brought more loneliness. I appreciate your work.
Less than 2 weeks before my beautiful, intelligent, caring son took his life , he was at a friend's party and the subject of their lives and how they were all feeling came up. His answer according to his roommate was “ I'm tired of being lonely”. He was 23, almost 24. I never knew he felt lonely. He always seemed so happy. He had been living on his own except for roommates since he left home at 18.
This is great, looking forward to more content! I’m studying IPNB and just got back from a week of school. I’m struck by how hard vulnerability and connection are for me, even knowing what I know.
I’m curious to hear more about what the gender-specific factors are that contribute to this might be. Curious about the cultural factors and if there are any inherent differences between men and women.
My younger brother has tried to commit suicide several times. I try so hard to help him help himself, but his addictions and bipolar disorder are so bad that no amount of support seems to improve his mental health. I think what you’re doing is great and maybe 🤞🏻 something you say/write about will resonate with him 🙏🏻
Love the ‘get up’, Blake! Really dress like a therapist! Love whoever quotes my ‘vulnerability queen’, Brene! This is good stuff! Thanks for the video! I hope men are watching!
Blake, I'm really happy I got to know you here on Substack just recently. I know I'm awful to responding to messages, but there's so much truth to this video. It's very well made and shot by the way. Looks beautiful. Kind of showcases the coldness of what loneliness feels like, and in the middle we see you smoking a cigar, dropping nothing but truth bombs, showing us that all we need to do to is pull up a chair and start talking about some real sh*t to start feeling less lonely and connect with people more.
Great job on this. I enjoyed your video and the content and setting were really good. I loved seeing you sit outside in the snow in a relaxed manner! I also think it’s great you are doing these topics specifically about men. So often in our culture, people want to remove any gender from discussions, but that’s likely contributing to the invalidation and isolation of men. So thank you, Blake, for writing and sharing from a man’s perspective as a therapist and doing so in such a helpful way. This made me think about my husband’s needs and other men I care about.
Love the setting for this video, and of course the content 👌🏽
I wondered if there’s any official stats more specific around men who’ve committed suicide, eg. Geographical location, or men of colour / white men etc?
Thank you for talking about this and sharing your own story. I definitely put on the mask of changing my personality to keep people from getting close. (Even though I'm truly craving closeness, I'm also afraid of being fully known)
I remember when I was told "real men do not cry" It was a great change when I realized, "real men can cry".
I like the video production presentation
I’m sad that you, and so many men, heard that message. And grateful you heard the more accurate one!
I loved reading part one, but I also loved listening to your part two now 🙏🏼 videos on Substack are helpful to mix things up a bit, or grab a cup of tea or a cigar while listening 😄
Yes, that’s the goal! Thanks for the feedback.
I love it. More of this.
🫡 I got you
Two critical lessons I learned a few decades ago are "taking a step of vulnerability", that is risking opening up, and "face your fears", that by moving through one's Wall of fear, courage is built making facing fear easier and easier.
Both appear risky but remember that with little risk there is little reward.
Thanks Blake. I am a new subscriber and am here for the duration.
Wow! Thanks Blake. I have struggled with loneliness for a great portion of my life. Most of it started when I was bullied as a child and I’ve had such a hard time connecting with people, especially other guys. This really helps a lot. After being a victim of bullying, it made it extremely difficult not to assume people would reject me so I learned to only share portions of myself thinking it would be a solution but it just brought more loneliness. I appreciate your work.
Less than 2 weeks before my beautiful, intelligent, caring son took his life , he was at a friend's party and the subject of their lives and how they were all feeling came up. His answer according to his roommate was “ I'm tired of being lonely”. He was 23, almost 24. I never knew he felt lonely. He always seemed so happy. He had been living on his own except for roommates since he left home at 18.
I think its do do with being raised on porno and told we liked it. I, for one, am traumatized as fuck.
Blake. Had to watch this for the aesthetic alone. Well done. 🔥
This is great, looking forward to more content! I’m studying IPNB and just got back from a week of school. I’m struck by how hard vulnerability and connection are for me, even knowing what I know.
I’m curious to hear more about what the gender-specific factors are that contribute to this might be. Curious about the cultural factors and if there are any inherent differences between men and women.
My younger brother has tried to commit suicide several times. I try so hard to help him help himself, but his addictions and bipolar disorder are so bad that no amount of support seems to improve his mental health. I think what you’re doing is great and maybe 🤞🏻 something you say/write about will resonate with him 🙏🏻
Love the ‘get up’, Blake! Really dress like a therapist! Love whoever quotes my ‘vulnerability queen’, Brene! This is good stuff! Thanks for the video! I hope men are watching!
Cant explain how really i fall in love with your cigar intro and didnt notice how i reach to the end of this vid...
Blake, I'm really happy I got to know you here on Substack just recently. I know I'm awful to responding to messages, but there's so much truth to this video. It's very well made and shot by the way. Looks beautiful. Kind of showcases the coldness of what loneliness feels like, and in the middle we see you smoking a cigar, dropping nothing but truth bombs, showing us that all we need to do to is pull up a chair and start talking about some real sh*t to start feeling less lonely and connect with people more.
Great job on this. I enjoyed your video and the content and setting were really good. I loved seeing you sit outside in the snow in a relaxed manner! I also think it’s great you are doing these topics specifically about men. So often in our culture, people want to remove any gender from discussions, but that’s likely contributing to the invalidation and isolation of men. So thank you, Blake, for writing and sharing from a man’s perspective as a therapist and doing so in such a helpful way. This made me think about my husband’s needs and other men I care about.
Love the setting for this video, and of course the content 👌🏽
I wondered if there’s any official stats more specific around men who’ve committed suicide, eg. Geographical location, or men of colour / white men etc?
Thank you for talking about this and sharing your own story. I definitely put on the mask of changing my personality to keep people from getting close. (Even though I'm truly craving closeness, I'm also afraid of being fully known)