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Sherry Taveras's avatar

“Emotional intelligence is actually being more attuned to your body, not merely knowing facts about emotions.” My husband tells me I live by my emotions. This is from years of avoiding them. I so agree that EI is being attuned to your body. I'm learning where I hold certain emotions in my body and laying more attention to them. Its a daily mind body connection that helps me regulate my emotions better. Not control, but regulate. Thanks for this. Great information.🙏🏾

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Blake Roberts, LMFT's avatar

You got it! That’s exactly right. It’s about regulation not control, love that way of putting it.

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Ashley Moore's avatar

I wanted to restack so much. So so much goodness here!!!!

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Blake Roberts, LMFT's avatar

Thanks Ashley!

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julie elder's avatar

Well, I just saw this TikTok and…….

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Max Kristopher Komes's avatar

I’m glad I’m not the only therapist who laughs (appropriately) during sessions 😅😂

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Blake Roberts, LMFT's avatar

Man we have to! It’s so human.

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Eliza Butler's avatar

Loved learning a little more about your journey at the beginning :) Also...I laughed out loud about the unspoken rite of passage of starting in a windowless therapy room. Why is that so true?!

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Blake Roberts, LMFT's avatar

I don’t know!! It’s just part of the job I guess lol.

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Beni Oren's avatar

Anyone else notice how’s therapist also spells the rapist

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Blake Roberts, LMFT's avatar

I’m sure you’re not the only one to notice it. Thanks for feeling the need to point it out lol.

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Beni Oren's avatar

Excuse the brazen immaturity. For some reason my brain read “20 things I’ve learned a the rapist” and I couldn’t believe I never noticed that word coincidence

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Blake Roberts, LMFT's avatar

Hahah when my wife noticed that and pointed it out, I changed my IG handle away from blake.the.therapist

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Tanner Olson's avatar

Gold.

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Kim White's avatar

As a former Certified Massage Therapist, your number 8 is a personal favorite and one I know to be true.

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Blake Roberts, LMFT's avatar

Oh it’s so true. And I’m sure you get it at a deeper level having done that work.

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Paolo Peralta's avatar

Greatness

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Luke's avatar

I’m working towards my LMFT and not practicing yet, but #2 and #12 are golden. (I’ve never seen a therapist in a windowless office…that sounds awful!)

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Blake Roberts, LMFT's avatar

Haha thanks Luke! Yeah it’s where I started out and it worked, but I’ll never go back.

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Mary Ann Rollano, RN's avatar

#12 - It’s not you. The mind learns when the heart is ready.

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Bessie Michelle's avatar

This is utter gold!!! Thanks for sharing your knowledge

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Derek Lakin's avatar

I'm on a similar journey toward becoming a therapist later in life, and it's immensely heartening to read bits about your story. Thanks so much for your insights!

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Jennifer's avatar

Thank you for posting this. Very helpful.

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Dr Vicki Connop's avatar

Great post Blake. I wrote a very similar one back in March.

https://drvickiconnop.substack.com/p/20-things-ive-learned-from-20-years

Your number 17 was on my list too 😀

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Kristin Schroeder's avatar

Have you noticed specific podcasts bringing insights to your clients? I am always curious about a good resource list!

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